Compassion as a business necessity

Compassion is not religious business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our own peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival. -The Dalai Lama

I was really struck by this quote and started to muse on why people in business are still not valuing their natural ability be ‘compassionate’ for each other in the workplace. Is it because it is deemed too emotional in its purest form to add value in monetary terms and therefore can’t be added to the ledger?

Yet compassion for me is the most valuable measure of business when seen in good leadership, a trusting workforce culture, and healthy retention of clients and customers. It is a natural way forward to preserve good health and vitality of our employees – and is core energy for getting on with everyone. I am talking here of a true compassion, as the Dalai Lama talks of, which embraces daily love, supports fairness, trust, respect and care for every man and woman.

Yet I am often told, you can’t talk like this in business, you have to talk about hard tangible benefits. Tough times need tough measures.

I disagree. This is exactly the time to turn around your life and your business, right from top to bottom, with love and compassion. Own it, be it, see the results. CEOs and top Boards are now seeing the growth of a strong female economy, changing requirements of women and men to be on par, accepted on their natural merits, each doing what they do best – together with compassion and not judgment.

How do you cope with adversity and chaos in today’s tricky economic climate? People too often blame others when the key to unlock is within. In hard measurable terms, if we don’t unlock this key, then we suffer, relationships suffer and business success goes out of the window.

I believe in our natural endless capacity to love and feel compassion for each other and that as a human race we have the ability and the desire to seek new ways and create a buoyant, abundant, collaborative world were all count, all add their own unique value, everyone counts. I know in my deepest essence that I am part of a whole existence that covers not just this day, but all the past and future that is. I share the responsibility for our world and see the natural energy of co-creation with us.

Working with men and women in diverse arenas, generations and situations, I see men and women holding the two halves of a whole solution, yet not creating a new blueprint together. Is it that, stuck as we are in an old pattern that does not serve us any more, we stubbornly refuse to believe that there is another way – the men stay tough and resistant to change, focused on targets, survival, power and profit; the women too often opt out of their feminine softness and take on the mantle of business the tough way. Neither side needs to stay fixed and rooted in either. I am encouraged by the ground swell of women today wanting to be in business and the news that the ‘female economy’ is being noticed by men when it comes to wealth managers and the growing wealth of women across the world. However we still haven’t got to grips with the bigger conversation that can embrace all women, their needs, all men and their needs, and most importantly the needs of a fragile changing world. Economies are constrained by overspend and cutbacks and we are told that we’re in for a period of austerity in the tabloid press. Women can make a difference to the future by stretching the new playing field into the natural domain of female needs rather than playing hard ball in a man’s world.

I believe there is a new magic we can bring to our collective conversations which honours our core strengths as men and women and allows for new energy of female growth to come into business as a whole. If we only calculate success of women by their wealth capability, we may ignore the contributions of those women who excel in other non-profit ways. We can ensure a more balanced ownership of true wealth to emerge easily when we add compassion to business and seek equity and fairness within every conversation. I know this will increase the profitline of the whole business and ensure everyone has a healthy life. Healthy, wealthy and wise may be a simple combination worth remembering.

My contribution is to teach people to step in the space they need to deliver their best. I help them to value their inner wisdom, and to be able to join every conversation with compassion.

I host “Magical Conversations” with invited groups of senior men and women to explore how to step into that natural space and be themselves, truly happy, to add loving energy to human business. My own life purpose is to bring harmony, collaboration and serious intention to merge life and business together, and to establish a simpler, more effective way to connect to likeminded people for greater success. I set up these conversations up to set a new pace for life for me and for my clients; a pace to think with my heart and to embrace a new truth about how I/we can co-create a wonderful new business plan for living and work merged together.

As in many mergers, we need to be aware of people’s needs, of bringing together differing cultures together. In the merger of men and women we still haven’t fully understood the natural value of our differences and how beneficial we are to each other. We need to explore how to dissolve all the confusion which goes with old thinking rather than new feelings and demystify the ‘gender code’ about stereotypes, barriers, egos and pre-conceptions. Let’s begin again with the best of the past and an open consideration for the future, and build a new blueprint for business that embraces life and measures love on the bottom line!

Transformed with compassion, the merger of men and women will grow a new culture of energy, loving intentions for growth and profit …and, most important to me, a era of positive loving business behaviour!

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Who’s calling the shots?

Last night I attended a fabulous debate at The Stone Club, a meeting of minds …and it surely was. The debate was ‘does the media, the business world, the politians or the general public call the shots’.

A lively top and very media’ full audience listened and debated ..with Andrew Neil chairing with his usual hard hitting humour and Simon Lewis, No 10’s official spokesman, getting an ear bashing from Nick Ferrari, Breakfast Show Host. LBC 97.3, and the result – a draw between the MEDIA and the POLITIANS – and I reflected on the impact of women in this whole debate. If there were more women in Parliament and in Business, of the right sort of course, the authentic, heartfelt, loving and generous female type, would we see a more balanced viewpoint influencing the way we receive the news?

This week also saw the start of The Downing Street Project, with four workstreams launched in Committee Room 10, around 100 women clammered to get involved to set their sights high to bring about new ways for women to be great politians. Watch this space for more news as the next 90 days are targetted to make huge shifts in how women leverage their ‘soft power’ to make a HUGE difference.

Our first woman Prime Minister Margaret Thather surely “called the shots”..well at least for most of our role in NO 10. The Downing Street Project sets out to be sure of more women in Parliament, yet focused on a new type of politian, one which the general public can really feel holds their attention and their vote ..and their love.

What is this talk of love an ‘soft power’? This is the essence of what will make the new politians more human, still with their own views and manifestos for sure, but with a real understanding and value for honesty, integrity and courage. We observe this in President Obama in every speech and his ability to ‘call the shots’ and outsmart the media on many occasions getting round the White Press circle with ease. He calls for ‘mutual respect’ mutual understanding’ ‘collective thinking’ and ‘world peace’. Soft power calling the shots.

Who calls the shots in your life?

The economic climate seems to be calling the shots in many people’s lives. The climate calls the shots on sweltering hot days as now. The Boardroom calls the shots. People need to be able to call the shots in their own lives. Women and men alike more influencing the media, the business leaders and the politians we vote into place.

For a new way to see men and women, do read my the first chapters of JOURNEY TO PLANET BIZ, and help call the shots on how this story ends….