Perfect timing

Have you had that day, that perfect day, when everything happens in perfect timings? You arise on time, feel fabulous, and you imagine your day ahead perfectly, even plan for the unexpected to be perfectly timed with a response you’ll sail through. This is not to control the day ahead but to allow its perfection to be timely because you set the pace. My beautiful cat Daisy, knows how to set the pace. She is 21 years old and is always in perfect timing with her day!

“Never be a slave to time but make it your servant. You have to make up your mind what you want to do and then go ahead and do it; and you will find that you have the time to do it perfectly“ says Elieen Caddy, from Opening Doors Within.

Try it – You set intentions for parking spaces, seats together on trains, conversations to be sparkling and tuned; you meet people you want to meet, even unexpected strangers flow into your day. Even the right thoughts and ideas arise at the perfect time. The sun shines on you even through cloudy skies as you flow through your day.

I can hear you naysayers muttering – “but I have days when perfect timing goes out the door, I am late, I am hassled, I don’t get my work done’ other people don’t do what they should, the world is against me…” And you develop the perfect conspiracy theory to confirm to yourself that it’s not your fault. You sleep fitfully but uncertainly happy that it wasn’t you!

Now take stock of your own perfect timing philosophy.

Since arriving in my new place this year, my place of unstuckness – I have placed an intention into my life that everything is designed to be perfect timing. What I mean by this is: my ‘perfect timing’ is an integral belief within ‘my game of life’ so even the nasty unexpected happening is ‘happening’ in perfect timing .i.e. is meant to be happening. Contrary thinking you may think! It works like this.

Everything in my life is perfectly designed to happen this way and indeed that has been true of ALL that has happened in my life to date (and will happen in the future).

My freedom to have perfect timing is as a result of my setting it as my intention and philosophy and as I take responsibility for my time and all the thoughts, feeling and actions in my life.

I accept that the perfect life is in each moment of being, that the value of being in that moment runs my clock of perfect timing.

And magically, it works, even when I am running late, I take responsibility, even if the tubes are running late, I own my relationship with that journey of time, and inform my being-ness that this moment is always perfect in its infinite capacity to be a choice I make to be.

In this state of knowing that each moment is perfectly designed for me to manage, cope with, deal with, feel into, react to; I give me permission to experience all emotions in real time, happiness, sadness, joy, frustration, love or fear, this is my life, my timing, my time… and it’s perfect, just the way it is.

In this state of perfect timing, today is the perfect time to write this!


Monday morning – a space in time

What is it about Monday morning that can blossom or blight your week? As people commute into town, what thoughts and feelings do they hold? They say that it is the day for highest suicides. Now that’s not a pleasant statistic to wake up to. So why do we have to endure any Monday blues?

Of course we can change anything around in our mind, in our perception. Entrepreneurs and self made business people often have a different view of Mondays because they may have worked all weekend. In a 24/7 global business, days of the week become hours and minutes, working calls you in the middle of the night to catch a time differentiated market.

Mondays can become the glorious start of the traditional nature of weekdays. A space in time for us to say ‘wow, another new working week!

In the UK, we now are at the start of a 4 day working week, followed by a three day working week and then immediately another four day. Due to Bank Holidays and our royal wedding of Prince William and his beautiful bride Kate, we are blessed with three short weeks.

However surely the weeks and days are actually the same length and space as they ever, where time is merely altered by its usage. So time changes as we apply it. If we work all the days this week and the next, we feel thwarted to not be holidaying with everyone else. But not ever one is holidaying. Time doesn’t exist, it’s always what we make it.

What if every day, whether work or play or chores was always so motivating that we merely breezed a glance at time, woke with a light spirit and a happy heart? What bliss! “Pie in the sky”, I hear you cry! Well let’s get closer to the best use of time. Here are three principles that I have and hold:

• Know what gets you out of bed (any day) – be motivated by life itself , smile to yourself and check in on your own energy, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually
• Do work that you love, with heartfelt commitment and passion in every moment (as whether in a temporary role, running your own shop or a long sought after career, every moment is precious)
• Be grateful for everything, even the tough parts of your day (after all this is the first day of the rest of your life), honour everyone in your day (even the naysayers and passing strangers) and write down your gratitude daily in a book kept safe by your bed.

In my own experience, especially when the skies are grey as they are this morning, I remind myself that if I were in a plane and above the clouds, all would be sparkling and blue. Me too!

“Monday, Monday, so good to me”

Be curious about life

A curious adventure

In January 2006, I set off on a curious adventure and a turning point in my life.

I walked up Mt Kenya to reach 4200metres. Why curious? I am sure for walkers, mountains climbers and the like, this seems a good effort but maybe not a big deal but for me it was. It was my curiosity that pushed me to book a flight to Nairobi into the unknown.

I had never been a great walker, indeed not much of an outdoor type unless at sea, where I loved sailing. I didn’t know anyone I was travelling with and had made the decision to go only three weeks before leaving with my borrowed rucksack and inadequate golfing boots for over 2 weeks in Kenya.

There was something else happening than the usual ‘holiday’ desire, there was a curiosity to explore, to know what a totally new experience would teach me and to do something I had never done before.

My curious desire to expand what I knew about ‘me’ was certainly achieved although, as ever, not quite like I’d imagined and not necessarily in a predictable fashion. My first learning was that changing every parameter i.e. unknown place, people and context (mountain/tents/latrines/altitude) challenged my usual good sense of confidence; I was alone in a crowd on a dangerous track, and I became shy! Eeekkkk!

I needed to acclimatize.

I had never realized until then the true meaning of that word. I found myself timid, reserved and it was like being back as a child of 11 going up to my upper school without my best friend because we had fallen out. Then I had developed coping skills of communication, rapport and relating so that I could become the ‘connector’ of the class and so gain respect from all. I found myself doing the same with my climbing companions. Facing a challenging task with a range of experience, a diverse set of people and intimate living in communal tents with strangers was a good way to test your people skills!!

It reminds me now of how we can get over confident with our known experiences and forget to check-in on how others are feeling in the same situation which may be new for them.

How often do we not notice what others are feeling?

I sought courage!

The second challenge was the actual ‘doing’ the trek, it was tough. Apart from rushing up and down my 47 steps to the front door of my flat, I had really had no exercise as such. The mountain was long, slow, and steep – for me. We took it slow, a trip that can be done in 2 days easily by fit walkers, was taken over 5 days. I learned about endurance, courage, and pace. I learned also about ‘being’ at your pace not being worried about competing, the mountain was asking me to listen to my own rhythm.

Slowly, slowly, I learned to walk at a snail’s pace; breathe, and look up and notice the world around me rather than being stuck in my own fear of “can I do this?”

How often do we do this in our daily over pressure life?

I found insight and wisdom…

At the top of my trek, I stopped and rested at 4200m I saw the world in a new light. The mountain peaks, the valleys, the overhangs, the boulders, the pathway strewn with tiny sharp stones, the community we formed, the support network as we walked and talked and ate together, all formed a world in itself. Each experience, each adventure, each curiosity, was a micro view of my world and the whole world.

We come together, some unknown to each other, some friends, some family, all with different ages, genders, nationalities – and we all experienced the experience differently. I learned not to take things for granted, to get out of my own comfort zone, and to be in tune with the ground beneath my feet and the sky above me and all the beauty of life in between!!

My wise advice – Go be curious, be adventurous, delve into the unknown and know always it enhances your life if you’re willing! If I had not, I would never have seen this view….

Visioning your future NOW!

Why wait for tomorrow to start your vision today?

Place in view, not just in your head. Don’t be shy of what you dream about passionately. Put it right, left and centre, know that what you don’t know now will turn up, set intentions through your visioning and watch it flow towards you.

“What rubbish” I hear you whisper in your head – surely my vision, my dream, and my passion is best kept inside incase others put me off and say it’s too daring, too outside of my ability… “It’s a secret because I dare not say what others might ridicule.” You pronounce the death knoll on your pioneering vision ‘in case the arrows in your back hurt you!!!

Well I am here to tell you – get out of your own way and watch it occur.

Pauline's Vision Board Autumn 2010

Here is my vision board from last autumn – and already, I am ready for a revised and extended vision i.e. to host my own chat TV show interviewing extraordinary women and men who bring diverse and extraordinarily transforming ideas to life, business, and entrepreneurship, and influence social change and create philanthropic operations that delve deep into unknown territory to save the world from pain.

I am meeting with all the amazing people because I seek amazing people, I have already a line-up of top women to interview about what is really needed to transform our recession hit boardroom and really give Lord Davies a radical shake up!! I am asking senior guys too to come onto the interview couch; and I plan more hosting of ‘Magical Conversations’ across corporate land.

I always set my intentions in my vision board and then in my conversations (I talk and connect a lot) and now have celebrities and entrepreneurial opportunities to interview; both men and women of all ages – I even have a fabulous group of 16/17year olds who’d like to be in conversation with the boardrooms of UK. Now that will be a magical conversation to watch!

So what is happening here?

I explain this work using vision boards and intentions today to a new and dear friend, Maryam, who is on a mission to spread transformation education through Persian TV – now this is her homeland, her passion is raw, is new, is seeded by Landmark Education and a Forum we both experienced last weekend. Yet she had planned to keep her vision a secret – NO I say to her, bring it to life! She is now.

So here are the steps;

1. Know your vision needs to come from your inner passion – don’t just think it, write it down, mind-map it, draw it….. Do chat to close friends, don’t get put down, but be reasonable as well as unreasonable.
2. Be clear about what your vision intends to be, do, achieve- both for you in your life and for others in the world
3. Know your part , your role, your desires and abilities within your dream of the vision
4. Create your vision board – pictures, words, textures – that give a picture of the essence of your vision in very practical terms…
5. Put a picture of you in the middle – it’s your vision, your dream, and will influence the way you lead your life
6. Talk about it from your passion and for the benefits and results it brings … “my passion is to bring inspiration and motivation to people; to transform the country (then the world)… and get my message to its destination through interviews and presence in TV/media”
7. With your vision board finished and mounted on the wall – photograph it and put on your screensaver as well …and then when you see, you will be inspired
8. Answer questions and speak with passion – so when anyone else sees your vision board and they offer help, say YES and THANKS as often as you can and follow through with a review even if the lead comes to nothing!

People love to help us and yet so often we don’t set a clear intention about our vision and with purpose- say with responsible passion, own it, share it, allow people to bring you possibilities (however remote) and always be grateful for every link in the chain of your purpose fulfilled.

My vision boards have always helped me spring into action, take a confident lead, transform my experience in life and in business and move me closer to my current dream; to be the host of a Magical Conversations Chat Show, inspiring viewers through extraordinary people to take action to achieve a joyful, happy and abundant society for us all.

And if you have any dreams unrealized, let me know and come to one of my vision board creation sessions. Contact me on And if you know anyone in Persian TV, contact me for Maryam!!

The serious business of happiness

How does society become seriously happy? There are so many diverse components yet at core happiness must be simple, desirable and accessible surely?

Yesterday I was in the audience for the launch of Action for Happiness, and it was a wonderful space, great energy and buzzing with passion and fervour to embrace the possibility that individually and together, this movement can supercharge thousands to discover, uncover and recover happiness – and, with courage, dis-courage those naysayers from damaging the effort.

Some 4000 hits per minute on the web site, interest comes from most countries in the world (with a notable absence in North Africa and Russia, the map was covered) and with majority signed up coming from the UK, it’s happy-making to know we are leading the way!

The panel of experts was mostly men, which I found greatly encouraging and you can read more. I say that because if the men in power are to listen, it occurs to me that a majority lead from well-know male players will build a case for serious transformation. It is key that is both men and women asking for a happier society.

The question for me is “can such a gathering force of local activity influence in a major national (and ultimately international) way” specifically in areas such as education and health. The answer was not obvious other than make a louder point by ‘voting with our feet’ – less than satisfactory to me as the leaders of this afternoon were closer to official ears than I!

Could we transform the baseline criteria, the policies and systems that came from Government and which strangle the potential to seriously embed and integrate a organic spread of happiness into our lives and the lives of future generations?

I do believe we can transform our world and it lies within our grasp, within the commitment of individuals and the bubbling collective bond of communities. We need committed players in all arenas local, national and eventually internationally. Action for Happiness is a brilliant starting point to draw together initiatives, grassroots energy and proven studies from eminent parties such as Anthony Seldon, Geoff Mulgan and Lord Layard. Excellent start with the appointment of Mark Williamson, Director of Action for Happiness, this charity aims to lead the way.

My own personal reflection of the event was that although the focus was ‘happiness’, there was not a great deal of mention of love. Love in a pure unconditional form fuels happiness surely; the love between people, the centre of family growth, and the base of emotional ground needed to seed a happiness culture.

I believe ‘love’ is really our central theme and the fundamental quest when we seek to build a better happier UK and world. If either ‘love’ or ‘fear’ drive all other emotions (and we know that is so) then surely healthy happy emotional intelligence is a positive ingredient for a high happiness quotient? We must create a collaborative natural conversations that embrace love in our world. That is the context out of which happy language, relationships, communities and individuals can grow!

Let’s take a view from the Dalai Lama who says: “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions”.

I think we should take a big leaf out of his sense of happiness from love.

Can we create a new blueprint for life that delivers sustainability, security, and safety alongside family values, social equality, high employment, shareholder profit, and happiness without mentioning love?

I believe we can. But we may need to step outside of our own way; instead of doing happiness – how about YOU taking responsibility to BE HAPPY with every aspect of your life! YES every part!!

Future unfolds, undiluted gold

Completion, expansion
Release, growth
Space, clearing
Nothingness, bliss
Room for more
Space to infinity
Parallel lives
Inspire visions….

Dreams of mountains
Views untold
Here, now….

Me, you, we
No ‘them’ only us
Happiness glows
Tears flow, why so?
The beginning-end of my tomorrows
Future unfolds….

My spirit calls me
I acknowledge
Time to leave the past behind
My old life for new
Perspectives afresh
Undiluted gold…

The past is past, where are you now?

How often do you linger in the past, worrying about what has been done to you, putting meaning to everything and everyone, believing it’s all happening to you somehow and responding without you being responsible for anything? Do you ever wonder what might have happened if YOU stepped into a new possibility?

It’s time to get off that hamster wheel and notice what is gloriously possible for you right NOW.

I have thought that I spent much of my life in the present moment, often in my workshops I have been heard to say ‘this is the only moment that is important’. When years ago I was working more focused on image work and showing men and women how great they could look, women especially would say how much they liked the look yet would save it for a special day. My response was ‘surely everyday is special; this is the only moment so always be your best and choose to love yourself?’

And so if we don’t, we might then go on our way, not making every moment special, not making our selves be the extraordinary person we are born to be. Why is that? What responsibility can we take for being our best in the now and spreading that into everyday in our presence, our words and actions and so our responses, whatever occur.

Although of a generally positive mind and manner, I too have realized that I still have allowed the past to linger in my meaning of people and situations. What actually happens and the meaning I place on it are two totally separate factors. I allowed the meaning to linger and allowed it to influence my ‘doing’, the patterns of behaviour that I deliver. I have believed that what is my view ‘is real’, and yet it occurs to me now that that is my view of life and not what is reality. In fact there is no reality only my interpretation of what is happening and the meaning I place on it.

Today I choose to be in the now because I choose to be in the now.

And when I relate that to the wider context of my work and the world I seek to notice the collective meanings we place on what happens around us and in the groups and communities in which we live.

So take the collective meaning of what is happening in our society, the recessional impact on meaning in people’s lives, the meaning of austerity and the contra call for ‘happiness’. We all place different meanings on this broader picture and each coming from our own history and experiences and the enormous pile of meanings we have stored up since we were born. If we take a look at collective and personal ‘meanings’ about money, wealth, family, society, community, collaboration, rights and wrongs, personal interests and professional status most are stale and of no value. The past is past and as we gather to talk in the NOW about happiness, we need to complete on the meanings that may hinder or even derail the possibility of it before we even start.

The launch of Action for Happiness is tomorrow. Let’s make the conversation magical!

So some personal tips for those of you who wish to let go of their past baggage about the possibility of happiness:

To dissolve the barriers and limitations, you need to be freed from your stock pile of meanings related to unhappy happenings in your past life. These are not real in your current NOW.

Watch and log what occurs for you rather then what “is”?

It’s always your view not the world view.

The collective view is the collective view not what is happening.

Try this simple shift in language … “Happiness is unattainable. Happiness occurs to me as unattainable.”

The ‘occurs‘ statement enables every human being to own his/her view as it occurs and opens up a conversation about what occurs for each rather than talking about what’s gone before and jumping to solutions too quickly based on the past.

Try this in your own life. If there is someone whose actions causes you unhappiness, transform your words ‘person X is an angry person’ into ‘person X occurs to be to behave in an angry manner’. Stand into the responsibility of observing their behaviour and how you respond to it. They may merely be in pain, irritated by their day, a loud personality, and/or unaware of the impact they make. Wars are started on no less than this basic mis-understanding when a ‘meaning’ grows into a belief from opposing faction – the ‘I’m right, you’re wrong’ argument emerges. If laid down for years without mutual understanding, wars becomes seemingly unsolvable apart from with force.

Our past is past, it is nothing in the NOW. If we are to create the possibility of collective happiness in our society and across the world, I believe we need to put the past in the past, and notice when we look forward from NOW the only light shining is at the end of the tunnel and as we allow it to come brighter we exit the tunnel in the space of infinite possibility that everything is possible.