How often do you linger in the past, worrying about what has been done to you, putting meaning to everything and everyone, believing it’s all happening to you somehow and responding without you being responsible for anything? Do you ever wonder what might have happened if YOU stepped into a new possibility?
It’s time to get off that hamster wheel and notice what is gloriously possible for you right NOW.
I have thought that I spent much of my life in the present moment, often in my workshops I have been heard to say ‘this is the only moment that is important’. When years ago I was working more focused on image work and showing men and women how great they could look, women especially would say how much they liked the look yet would save it for a special day. My response was ‘surely everyday is special; this is the only moment so always be your best and choose to love yourself?’
And so if we don’t, we might then go on our way, not making every moment special, not making our selves be the extraordinary person we are born to be. Why is that? What responsibility can we take for being our best in the now and spreading that into everyday in our presence, our words and actions and so our responses, whatever occur.
Although of a generally positive mind and manner, I too have realized that I still have allowed the past to linger in my meaning of people and situations. What actually happens and the meaning I place on it are two totally separate factors. I allowed the meaning to linger and allowed it to influence my ‘doing’, the patterns of behaviour that I deliver. I have believed that what is my view ‘is real’, and yet it occurs to me now that that is my view of life and not what is reality. In fact there is no reality only my interpretation of what is happening and the meaning I place on it.
Today I choose to be in the now because I choose to be in the now.
And when I relate that to the wider context of my work and the world I seek to notice the collective meanings we place on what happens around us and in the groups and communities in which we live.
So take the collective meaning of what is happening in our society, the recessional impact on meaning in people’s lives, the meaning of austerity and the contra call for ‘happiness’. We all place different meanings on this broader picture and each coming from our own history and experiences and the enormous pile of meanings we have stored up since we were born. If we take a look at collective and personal ‘meanings’ about money, wealth, family, society, community, collaboration, rights and wrongs, personal interests and professional status most are stale and of no value. The past is past and as we gather to talk in the NOW about happiness, we need to complete on the meanings that may hinder or even derail the possibility of it before we even start.
So some personal tips for those of you who wish to let go of their past baggage about the possibility of happiness:
To dissolve the barriers and limitations, you need to be freed from your stock pile of meanings related to unhappy happenings in your past life. These are not real in your current NOW.
Watch and log what occurs for you rather then what “is”?
It’s always your view not the world view.
The collective view is the collective view not what is happening.
Try this simple shift in language … “Happiness is unattainable. Happiness occurs to me as unattainable.”
The ‘occurs‘ statement enables every human being to own his/her view as it occurs and opens up a conversation about what occurs for each rather than talking about what’s gone before and jumping to solutions too quickly based on the past.
Try this in your own life. If there is someone whose actions causes you unhappiness, transform your words ‘person X is an angry person’ into ‘person X occurs to be to behave in an angry manner’. Stand into the responsibility of observing their behaviour and how you respond to it. They may merely be in pain, irritated by their day, a loud personality, and/or unaware of the impact they make. Wars are started on no less than this basic mis-understanding when a ‘meaning’ grows into a belief from opposing faction – the ‘I’m right, you’re wrong’ argument emerges. If laid down for years without mutual understanding, wars becomes seemingly unsolvable apart from with force.
Our past is past, it is nothing in the NOW. If we are to create the possibility of collective happiness in our society and across the world, I believe we need to put the past in the past, and notice when we look forward from NOW the only light shining is at the end of the tunnel and as we allow it to come brighter we exit the tunnel in the space of infinite possibility that everything is possible.